Final Post for this blog

I really don't need to make this post but here it goes.

Since the last post in October, 2009 I have met an awesome woman.  We met in December of 09 and she moved in to my place in March.  As you can see, quite a bit of time has passed since then and things are going great.

We did not meet through online dating.  I think that some folks probably do meet that way, but that process sure didnt work for me.  We met through mutual friends at a holiday get together at the Hotel Del Coronado.

Thats enough for this blog.  The experiment of online dating has ended for me.  I am not sure what I learned from it, maybe some day I will figure it all out.

Signing off.

Hiatus

I am not sure how long it is been, but I am on an online dating hiatus. I am taking a break for at least the short term. Need to get refocused on whats important. Online dating was starting to get like online gaming was for me in the past. Frequent peering at the monitor to see if someone had returned a message or even if someone had looked at my profile. That didn't seem healthy and I was starting to get manic about it.

On top of that, the huge amount of time for the absolute lack of reward was frustrating. I am really thinking that online dating is not the way to meet someone that I will be excited about. Although all of the women have been nice and I don't have much if anything to be negative about, none of them had that magic that I was hoping for.

In fact, although in the heat of the moment, at the end of a date, I expressed interest in meeting them again, I did not actually follow up on that with any of them. I don't regret that either. With hindsight, looking back at them, I really don't see any promise with any of them.

I have joined the Sierra Club again, and Sierra Singles, and who knows what will come of that. I have started dance lessons and although I am a total klutz, I am enjoying it and looking forward to going out dancing somewhere to show off my moves, after I get a few that is.

The projects around the house are slowing working thier way towards completion. The fish ponds are getting sealed and prepped for water, the garden has been weeded and the earth turned. The chickens are giving me fits, they have started eating each others eggs and that is a problem. I am working on ways to confound them. The Zen garden fence is up and close to being done, can't wait for that.

Lots of things on the burner, don't miss dating at this point. I would love it if a woman fell from the skies and landed in my bed, or at least my front room, unhurt that is. But, that is not likely. Sooo.... I will get out there again, the Sierra Singles has tons of events, and there is always the dog pound.

Well, I think I am done.

I had date number 7 today. It was pleasant, but not exceptional. She was nice, and I suppose we could meet again, but unless she takes a valium and calms down a bit I dont think I would not want to spend too much time with her.

This whole process has been really hard, and I might feel different tomorrow, but I am really tired of contacting women who dont return the favor.

On top of that, one of the women who I had dated earlier, number 5, deleted my notes to her. Now, that might mean something or it might not, I dont know, but I dont think I even want to make the effort to find out. We had talked about having a second date, so I am thinking it means something.

Overall, I am pretty discouraged about the whole process.

New Ideas

Great photographs really help!!!! Not that I would know from personal experience. However I did post 2 new ones to my profiles. I sure do have a block head.

Root Canal postpones number 7

After about 7 emails, coordinating a date at the Lake today, about 30 minutes before arrival time I had to cancel. Seems I needed a root canal. I bopped into my local dentist and in an hour was headed home, with a huge feeling of relief from the intense pain that little f*&%^ing tooth was causing me. I love my dentist. I dont care if he is a guy, I love him.

Anyways, date 7 got canceled, or at the least put off. I followed that with a call to a woman that a friend of mine suggested that I contact. My friend apperently was kind enough to do some matchmaking so I promised that I would call. We had a humorous conversation and vowed that we would get our matchmaker to buy us dinner. We made a date for next Tuesday morning for coffee.

Sooo... what do I think of all this, having done it for a couple of weeks now? I don't know, I will think about it tonight.

Boom Baby, number 6 done

Well, I need to fill out a dance card for sure now. I was sitting at the computer doing a bid for a job when I got a phone call. Yeah, I messed up on the day and instead of number 6 being on Thursday, it was actually today. Phyllis, for we shall call her that because she reminds me of a nice woman from my childhood, was very polite and asked me if we were still on for today. Doh! I asked her if she could hang out for a few minutes and I would rush right there.

I did not have time to change, although I did throw a clean shirt on over my work shirt. So, with dirty work jeans, and work boots, I jumped in my car.

She was very forgiving of my mistake and we had a very nice chat. Spent an hour getting to know each other a bit, talked about kids and ex's, and other stuff. Since we both have our kids during the same weeks, and we both don't date during those weeks, we put off actually planning a second date, but we both agreed to meet again the next week without our kids.

I seem to be on a roll now, lets see how the rest of this week goes.

Numero Cinco

Sunday proved to be a pleasant day with a nice date thrown in during the afternoon. She works in law, downtown. We met at Balboa Park and had a nice picnic that I put together and brought. We definitly hit it off and enjoyed each others company. Have not talked since, but we did make plans to have a second date.

I have date number 6 arrainged for Thursday. This is one that got canceled before due to a conflict, but we were able to find a new time.

Also on Sunday I called another woman who I knew I would have the outdoors in common with. She is a member of the sierra club and we talked for over an hour about stuff. We set a date for Sunday morning, meet for coffee.

I am still amazed at how few women bother to send back a reply. I am going to do an experiment. At least I hope I have the self discipline to be able to. I am going to take a dating hiatus after number 10, and I am going to lose 15 pounds. Then I am going to post a picture of me without a shirt on and see if I get more responses. Of course I will not caption it as "aren't I studly?", but as "truth in advertising."

We shall see what comes of that.

I had dance lesson number 2 today. Very fun and I am starting to feel better about my abilities. I was feeling awkward and was struggling with timing. I still feel that way, but now I can see that I am going to improve, it is not hopeless. (oh my dance instructor is so cute)

Getting a hair cut tomorrow, I need it.